MOTHERHOOD IS A RISKY BUSINESS

Motherhood has always been a risky business.  Before the 20^th century, it was common to lose a young child to diphtheria, pneumonia, or many other infectious diseases.  Reading the biographies of past presidents of the US, you learn that the death of some of their children caused them grief and may have affected the way they conducted affairs.

My first child was born in Chicago, where my husband and I had no nearby mothers or aunts.  How terrifying those first few weeks were—suddenly, you’re responsible for the life of a tiny human being and you have no experience whatsoever.  I relied heavily on Dr. Spock and a lady pediatrician who had a radio show every afternoon.  But at least I got to be a stay-at-home mom.  That was the norm then, and since I later became a working mom, I have to tell you that stay-at–home is far easier.  Now, my working mom daughters must juggle 8 hour days and commute time,  with the increasing responsibilities of parenthood.

So what do parents get in return for all this hard work?  Some women have grown children who live nearby and are very devoted.  Others might see their children only once a year.  None of us will ever be fully repaid for the sweat and tears we devoted to raising our children..  My reward is seeing my daughters passing on that tender loving care to their own children.  Love is a circle; it never ends.

And to those women who chose not to have children, I’d like to say thank you for not bringing an unwanted child into this world. 

Happy Mother’s Day to all.